In today’s constantly connecting world, finding solitude is a lost art. And many of us equate solitude with being lonely, sad or depressed. But to be honest, seeking solitude or “me time” is actually quite healthy and equates to self-care.
Self-care is essential for happiness. And there are tons of physical and psychological benefits to spending time alone.
It is easy to be overwhelmed by what life throws at you. And It can be detrimental when you’re trying to process each of this information that comes from all directions.
There are days when I feel like sitting in a dark room with the doors closed and the noise shut out.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my family.
But living in this 9-5 grind, many of us are busy with work, school and home life that often we have no time left to do anything we enjoy. And we all long for that “Me time”.
Why create “Me time”?
The point of “Me Time” focuses on finding your true and authentic self by working on activities that help you build your self as an individual. It helps you slow down, enjoy life and rejuvenate yourself.
It may sound unrealistic in today’s world, but give it time, maybe even 5 minutes and you’ll be thankful for what you’ve learned in those 300 seconds.
Many people struggle to live up to the various commitments that are set for them and find themselves in a rut with no time.
And, although socializing with friends and family can be healthy, indulging in a few minutes alone, can do wonders to your life.
So, in the spirit of creating time for your authentic self, here are my 10 tips to creating a better me time.
1) Scheduling your Me Time
Apart from making sure you get enough sleep and grooming done, try to save a certain weeknight just for yourself. Switch off your phone and keep all distractions away. You’re the most important person now, and nothing should take that away. It can be just 10 minutes of your day if you like.
Use the time to do something you love, be it reading, gardening, exercising, or even singing in the bathroom. It’s your time, so go ahead.
2) Go with your Gut
Especially while making decisions, many of us tend to consult with a lot of people. It may be good you’re taking advice, but don’t let an advice turn your heart against what you really want to do. If you want to take a salsa class, but someone’s told you it’s hard, don’t bother. Even if you don’t do well, at least you’ve learned a step or two.
3) Learn to say No
I love saying no to everything around me. It’s not because I’m a pessimist, but because I don’t want to chew more than I can swallow.
Learn to communicate your boundaries to others and listen to what your body tells you. There’s a reason to why those tension headaches and body aches won’t leave you. These are all tiny messages that our body is trying to tell us to slow down and recharge.
4) Stimulate Your Senses
Whether it’s a cup of freshly brewed coffee, a walk on cold, dewy grass or the music you love; they all have the power to simulate your sense to remind you of who you are. These tiny stimulations help you recreate yourselves, from time to time. It’s not a fast track, but it’s definitely worth it.
So take a sip, and walk around and for once actually try connecting with yourself.
5) Leave Work On Time
Many of us think that staying late in office is going to help us earn a bonus. But sometimes, its okay to step back and give yourself time from going into burnout. No, I’m not against working, but don’t work till you break. Instead leave office, when needed. Even if you have 5 extra minutes, use it to do something for yourself. No one benefits from an exhausted mind, so make sure you’re fresh enough for people to notice you.
6) Use Your Shower Time
For some of us, a shower is our only naturally built-in alone time during the entire day. And if that’s the case, take advantage of it. Have some really nice essential oils ready and indulge in a nice Getaway-like treatment. Take deep breaths and let the water wash away any tension that you may have.
7) Get up Earlier
You’ve probably heard this before and may not be a fan. To be honest, I wasn’t either. But I gave it a try. I would get up groggy and start the day grumpily, but after a week, when it all settled in, I was so glad.
I had time for myself to spend writing, I was happy and energetic to get work done and the positivity that ran through me beamed around.
So it may not be your first option but try.
8) Monthly Treats
Schedule a movie or a concert you love and treat yourself a month. You can either go alone for this or take someone who shares the same interest. It helps you enhance the quality of your relationships with others by getting a good understanding of who you are and what you desire.
9) Being Less Critical
I know I shouldn’t be the one saying this, but being less critical to yourself and the outside world may help you gain unexpected flashes of creative insights. You’ll be able to solve problems easily and this, in turn, helps optimize your life and the people you live around with. You’ll be able to reflect upon each instance and be able to use these insights to make better choices in the future.
10) Treat Yourself as an Investment
The day you treat yourself as an investment, will mark the beginning of you being the best for others around you. It may be harsh at first, but logically speaking, it’s quite beneficial for your body and soul.
By investing time with relationships that matter most to you doesn’t make you selfish, instead, it helps enrich connections and you start to understand the real value of time and how to use it more effectively.
The above tips may sound daunting at first. But give it time and you’ll be able to recognize the advantages it may offer you in the long run. When you’re forced to do things you ought not to, you’re in fact connecting to your authentic self to help guide you.
I hope you find these tried and tested tips useful, as we have, to help rediscover yourself amidst the noise.
If you have any other tips that you’d love to share, let us know in the comments below!