Maintaining a Long Distance Relationship takes a lot of dedication and hard work between two people. Many people think that it’s never going to work out at the end of it. You’ll be discouraged and hear long gasps and sighs of pity from those who get to know. Every fight with your significant other would end with those long conversations with your best friend telling you it may not work out. And so on and so forth. Things could get complicated and communication may become adrift.
But it needn’t always be like that. Distance has the ability to make the simplest of things, like eating out together or talking a walk, seem beautiful.
It’s no fairy tale to be in one, but it’s not anything less either. To keep your love alive and encouraged, here are a few tips to make your relationship work:
Space it out
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. But becoming overly possessive and communicating at all times may reduce the spark you may have in a long-distance relationship. Allow a bit of space between the two of you to grow and develop as two interconnected individuals. This may help reignite and make conversations a lot meaningful. Always remember, less is more. Spamming continuously with messages may irritate the other, stirring conflict.
Knowing your S. O’s schedule
It is really important to know when your partner is free or busy. It helps set out a set schedule to when you can call them up and let them know about your day. I personally don’t like calls going into voice mails and I know you would agree with me on that. It gets a bit difficult if you both share different time zones. To, avoid the stress understand each others’ schedule. This will surely help to stay in touch without the feeling of being left out.
Stay true to each other
Honesty is the best policy, especially in relationships. Talk about your insecurities, goals, fear, passion or whatsoever. As tempting as it may be to not stir confrontations, it is as important to let it out before it eats you alive. Be open and honest with each other. Help and support each other positively through your problems as well as your good times.
Enjoy your time with friends and family
As much as you love your significant other, spending time alone or with family and friends helps you connect with not only yourself but also with the people around you. Spend time going to the gym or taking violin lessons. Get a new hobby. Go for movies. Try out new cuisines and share your experiences with your significant other. This would increase the urge to try out things whenever you’re both together.
Distance can be your best friend
My mum would often tell me that if I wanted to live with someone, we first had to try to live apart. My fiancé and I did a bit of distance and we learnt that proximity is everything. It teaches you the good, the bad and the ugly. It teaches you to solve problems and puts your loyalty to test. Rather than feeling that LDR is pushing you both away, look at it as an opportunity that pulls you closer.
Excessive communication can become a nuisance and stir a conflict. Avoid that. Greet each other every day, no matter how busy you may be. Send them tiny audio clips of what you feel and short videos of you through time to time. Keep your partner updated about the tiniest and mundane things of life without spamming them and this will surely make the other person feel loved and attended to.
One thing I learned from LDR is never to provoke your partner into trusting you less. It happens, and it could be because of an impromptu plan, but let them know. Don’t be careless about it. It’s not about asking permission. It’s more about being safe in case you get stranded somewhere and they may be your only saving grace. So, let your partner know and have fun.
Make random visits
Visiting each other are the best things in every long-distance relationship. Plan holidays or things to do together. Go for movies and dinner dates. Stand by the beach and hug through the sunset. Take a long walk and talk about the most ordinary things in life. And while you’re at it, remember that time is short. So make use of every minute putting in that extra effort to spend time because after all, its worth it.